Rephael Cattan

  We are beginning siman 26. The Chayei Adam discusses a parent taking care of a child. Many times, a parent wants to do an act of service for their child. Certainly, much of parenting involves the parent taking care of the child, but even when a child is older, a parent may still wish

 We are beginning siman 25, where the Chayei Adam continues to discuss other individuals who are included as adjuncts in the mitzvah of kibud av v’eim.  The Chayei Adam writes that a person is chayav to be mechabed their father’s father. The poskim point out that the halacha applies to their mother’s father, and to

 We are beginning siman 22. In the next few simanim, the Chayei Adam discusses other people to whom children must give kavod as an adjunct to kibud av v’eim. The Chayei Adam begins with parents who have remarried, and a child’s chiyuv to those stepparents.  The Chayei Adam writes that a child is chayav to

 We are continuing in siman 21, where the Chayei Adam writes that if one hits their child when they are at an age that the child will react in a manner in which they transgress kibud av v’eim, the parent transgresses lifnei iver.  Rav Nissim Karelitz ztl, in his sefer Chut Shani, writes that this

 We are beginning siman 19. The Chayei Adam discusses the arur associated with kibud av v’eim. The Chayei Adam writes that anyone who makes light of their parents or in any way degrades them is cursed under the curse of arur makleh aviv v’imo, one of the 11 curses Klal Yisroel accepted upon themselves in

 We are continuing in siman 18, which discusses the chiyuv kibud av v’eim towards parents who are not shomer torah u’mitzvos. The Chayei Adam presents the opinion of the Shulchan Aruch as the primary opinion, and brings the opinion of the Rema as a secondary opinion, even though the Ashkenazi minhag generally follows the Rema.

 We are beginning siman 17. The Chayei Adam writes that the chiyuv kibud av v’eim applies to both male and female children equally. However, if a woman is married, and her husband is not allowing her to be involved with her parents because he needs her to assist him, she is exempt from kibud av

 We are continuing in siman 16, discussing conflict between kibud av and kibud eim. We learned that, although husband and wife must both treat each other with the greatest of kavod, when there is a conflict between kibud av and kibud eim, Chazal teach us that kibud eim takes precedence. (Unless they are divorced, in

 We are beginning siman 16, which discusses conflict between kibud av and kibud eim. Generally, we consider kibud av and kibud eim as equal, as the Torah equates them. Regarding kibud, it says kabeid es avicha v’es imecha, and regarding yirah, it says ish imo v’aviv tira’u. Chazal explain that the mother is written first

 We are continuing in siman 15, discussing indirect conflicts between kibud av v’eim and other mitzvos. The Chayei Adam discusses a new case: one’s mother asks a child to do something, and their father subsequently comes in and asks the child who told them to do what they are doing. The child realizes that if

 We are continuing in siman 15. We learned that talmud torah and marriage is greater than kibud av v’eim, in the sense that the child does not need to listen to the parent’s directive in those cases if the child feels it will negatively impact their fulfillment of the mitzvah. We will discuss other applications,

 We are beginning siman 15, where the Chayei Adam discusses situations in which a parent wishes to give their child direction on how to perform a mitzvah, but the child wishes to perform the mitzvah in a different manner. The Chayei Adam will give some examples. The Chayei Adam begins with the mitzvah of limud

 We are continuing in siman 13, where the Chayei Adam discusses direct conflict between kibud av v’eim and a mitzvah. We learned that if a parent asks a child to transgress even a mitzvah derabanan, the mitzvah derabanan overrides the mitzvah of kibud av v’eim. This halacha is not sourced in any Gemara, but is