Rephael Cattan

 We are beginning siman 12. As we mentioned in the previous siman, the Chayei Adam writes that the financial outlay for kibud av v’eim is the responsibility of the parents, and the child’s chiyuvim are only the acts of service. Thus, for example, the child may be chayav to feed their parents, but the expenses […]

 We are continuing in siman 11, where the Chayei Adam is discussing a parent causing a financial loss to a child. We have learned that a child may take steps to prevent the loss from happening, even if it will cause the parents a level of distress, when the child knows that the parents do

 We are continuing in siman 11, where the Chayei Adam discusses the extent of the kavod one must have for their parents.   The Chayei Adam continues, and writes that there are actually two opinions regarding how to understand the extent of the chiyuv of kibud av v’eim in respect to parents causing a child a

 We are beginning siman 11. The Chayei Adam discusses the level of kavod a child must have towards their parents even when the parents are not acting appropriately.  The Chayei Adam writes that the extent of kibud av v’eim is such that even if one is wearing expensive clothing and sitting as one of the

 We are beginning siman 10, where the Chayei Adam discusses situations in which a child needs to correct their parent. Although the child needs to take on the role of the teacher, as it were, it is inappropriate for the child to see themselves as above the parent nor to give off the impression they

 We are beginning siman 9, where the Chayei Adam discusses a painful and pressing issue. Many people end up in a situation where their parents grow elderly and care becomes challenging. The Chayei Adam discusses the extent of the chiyuv kibud av v’eim in these situations.  The Chayei Adan writes that one whose parents have

 We are continuing in siman 8, where the Chayei Adam discusses the parameters of morah. We left off discussing calling parents by their first names. The Chayei Adam writes that one may not call their parents by their first names. The issue arises, however, when another person asks a child for their parents’ first names.

 We are continuing in siman 8, where the Chayei Adam discusses the parameters of morah. Yesterday, we discussed when it is muttar to disagree with a parent in the context of conversation. There is another facet to this question, which regards when a parent asks a child to do something.  In the mitzvah of kibud,

 We are continuing in siman 8, where the Chayei Adam discusses the parameters of morah.   The Chayei Adam writes that a child should not disagree with a parent’s opinion. For example, when a parent is in a discussion with someone else, the child should not say ‘the other person’s opinion makes more sense’, and certainly

 We are beginning siman 8. The Chayei Adam will discuss the mitzvah of morah, fear. In the same way the Torah gave us the mitzvah of kibbud, the Torah gives us the mitzvah of morah as well. Primarily, kavod primarily refers to mindsets and actions a person should do, while morah refers to actions a

 We are continuing in siman 7, where the Chayei Adam is discussing the chiyuv to stand up for one’s parents. The Chayei Adam qualifies that, although one must stand up for their parents, they only need to stand twice per day, once in the morning and once in the evening. However, if after having already

 We are beginning siman 7, where the Chayei Adam discusses the chiyuv of kimah, standing up. In the same way a person has a chiyuv to stand up for their rebbe, they have a chiyuv to stand up for their parents as well.   The Chayei Adam writes that one must stand up for their parents

 We have finished siman 6, where we learned about how kibbud av v’eim applies after death, and how the primary way a child can bring kavod to their parents is by acting properly.   Many times, disagreements arise when two aveilim want to daven for the amud as an ilui neshama for a niftar. Regarding these

 We are continuing in siman 6, regarding kibbud av v’eim after parents have passed away. We learned that one of the forms of kibbud after death is reciting kaddish. However, kaddish is not the only way for a child to demonstrate kavod. Other forms of kibbud include giving tzedakah, learning mishnayos, and receiving aliyos (especially

 We are beginning siman 6. The Chayei Adam writes that the chiyuv kavod to parents does not only apply when they are alive, but after they die as well. We see from the Chayei Adam that the chiyuv kibbutz av v’eim is not solely bein adam l’chaveiro; if it were, it would not apply once

 We have finished siman 5, which discusses kavod through speech. The Chayei Adam gave the example of using one’s father’s name when others will respond to it positively as a way of bringing kavod to their father.  The Chayei Adam mentioned previously the importance of looking at one’s parents as among the greatest of the

 We have finished siman 3, where the Chayei Adam clarified that although the Gemara speaks about demonstrating kavod through speech and actions, one must also demonstrate kavod through attitude and thought. We learned that the Chayei Adam writes that a person has a chiyuv to perceive their parents as among the greatest of the generation.

 We are beginning siman 3. The Chayei Adam will begin clarifying some of the halachos of kibbutz av v’eim, but still approaches the halachos of this siman from more of a mussar perspective.   The Chayei Adam writes that not only is kavod demonstrated through actions and speech, but also through attitudes and thoughts. Regarding